Hey guys! I've had a small epiphany this week and wanted to share. Every time I see posts, or quotes saying that expectations are in short no good, I always questioned why? I figured those who didn't believe in having expectations were jilted in the past and now react negatively to the word, but now I see it's not a matter of reacting negatively or positively to the idea of expectations, it's about not feeding this ego driven thing called expectations at all.
I have always had high expectations, for everything and as a result I have had my fair share of disappointments. I was wrong for expecting all these great things in a world that's constantly in a state of randomness. God is the one who determines what I deserve, not me. Working hard, and doing my best is my sole job and what I receive in turn is determined by what God deems fit for me. What I want will be different than what God gives me, because God gives you what's needed, not what you want. God will give us the things that benefits our life to the best, beyond what we or anyone else can see. You may work hard all your life and think you deserve that promotion, but then you don't get it, God isn't rejecting you, he's telling you that promotion isn't, good enough for you, and he has something better planned. The only thing you should expect or assume is that God is by your side and is constantly in the process of getting you down the right path, he made specifically for you.
You can expect a promotion, but believing the standard of work you've done deserves a promotion is completely different. You can't expect others to have the same standards as you, standards are a self made thing. Standards derive from what you will deal with,expectations derive from making assumptions about the standards of others.I have certain standards for myself, the kinds of people I allow in my life, and the positions I let them have. I determine my standards, I build them, they are my own original creation. Everyone's standards are going to be different. Don't expect anything out of anyone, but don't let anyone determine your own standards.