Sunday, April 28, 2013

Misleading Romances

     The poetry book I've written and am currently editing is all about self love. Self love is loving who you are, growing content with who you are, it's about accepting self growth and cherishing it, it's about being better to yourself because you are worth it. The benefits of self love are infinite. Self love builds your confidence, you develop better trust in who you are. It also helps decrease the hate in the world, if you love yourself truly, you don't have time to be a hater, because you learn to accept the insecurities you can't change and not take them out on someone else.  Another benefit to practicing loving yourself is when you meet and begin to love them, you know how to do it properly. 
        If self love is such an incredible thing how come it's only preached about for the last 5 minutes of the romance film? Self love doesn't have many campaigns, and if it does it's not nearly as promoted as other kinds of love portrayed in romance films and novels, that are everywhere all the time. Romantic films and books bring in a lot of money because people relate to them and they enjoy the fantasy, which isn't a bad thing. The only issue I have with promoting romance films and novels on such a huge platform is the lack of other kinds of romance, other kinds of love which are just as beneficial or even more so. 
     I'd relate to a story about a person, who falls in love with themselves. Many others may not relate to self love, or find it interesting, which makes incredibly sad. If you can't relate to the power of self love, 9 times out of 10 it's because you haven't experienced it yet and that's something I think everyone should experience. Although self love is an incredible experience, you can't force someone to love themselves, but then again our media often forces they have to find it for themselves Often the message in these romantic films, is that true love lies in what you give to someone else and what they bring to you, not the love you have for yourself. They take romantic propaganda, someone else's story, someone else's art and makes it ugly, they distort the original message through misleading commercials and synopsis. You're probably wondering, "well during the movie obviously their message gets heard", nope. Screen writers and novelists will be edited and summaries will be molded to make the project "marketable", therefore the original message could be interpreted any kind of way by the time it gets to the masses. 
       The author or screen writer's voice often becomes silenced. Haven't you noticed the lack of interviews given to the actual author, or screen writer, but there are millions of the actors and actresses in question who portray the very characters they create. Sometimes I want to hear first hand what the author meant by the romantic tale, let me hear the words straight from their mouths, but because they aren't celebrated like actors and actresses are, they kind of stand in the back, merely content that their art finally got created. 
         Why, why go through the trouble to popularize romance, why popularize only one kind of love? Money. When society validates your worth by the kind of relationship you're in, or if you're in a relationship at all it has an effect on you. Single-living is often associated with being lonely and sad which isn't true, no one acknowledges that you are still susceptible to loneliness and sadness even whilst in a relationship, that would be bad business. 
     It's easier to make the American people insecure about the relationships they have with other people, when they popularize only certain definitions of love, and they force ideas and assumptions about love onto you. People often forget that romance novels,music, and movies is someone else's interpretation of love, and developed out of entertainment and self expression. You can't follow everything the media tells you, but that too is a message that gets silenced. 
      When you put so much importance on being in a relationship with someone else, you can neglect yourself. You find yourself in such a relationship needing, bind to outrun the hole you have in yourself due to the neglect previously stated before, that you're willing to buy whatever product, read whatever book, watch whatever movie, that relates to your relationship need. Then suddenly, you're in a relationship but it's not working out well because you still don't feel whole, so you indulge again in every product that relates to your new problem. If society can tell you what you need, they can tell you where to buy it, don't become a puppet. 
      Romantic films,novels and love songs are entertaining and sometimes relate able but they are not guides for your own relationship. Once you learn the value of your own opinion and choices which can be discovered through self love, you'll understand that your love story isn't going to be like everyone else's and that's okay.

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Updates Are In Order

             I became officially done with my last set of exams, last Thursday April 25th. It's been 3 days since my last exam and I've written a poetry book(currently in the editing process),filling out applications, and doing the squat challenge( you can see the challenge I've been running by here Squat Challenge Calendar). I need more things to do, I don't want to waste my Summer on afternoon naps, and sleeping late. Being a bit anxious so early into my vacation is probably not the best thing, but I can't deny I want more. Hopefully I get an interview soon enough because the idea of being so stagnant scares me.
        Blogging should be taking more a dominant position during my vacation and that's exactly what I plan to do, but honestly, I haven't felt motivated. Inspiration has recently been lacking inside of me to do an outfit post, or a review and this truly upsets me. My love  for my blog is never ending but, I literally haven't had much to blog about, besides my recent blessing from the makeup Gods, (you can see this blessing on my instagram, ). Sooner or later, something will come up and inspire me further to blog with the same prowess I now so well. I don't want to clutter my blog with nonsense so until I'm fully inspired, I will not be doing any more posts, don't worry though, this will only be a few days. My hiatus will hardly seem like a hiatus at all.
           Perhaps the root of all my trouble isn't that I'm not as busy as I want to be, but because I literally haven't winded down yet, and given myself a proper  break. Just because I have more time to sleep doesn't mean I am, it just means now I have more time to obsess over things and over think well into the night. My main goal of this Summer vacation is to be happy, no matter what and that means I need to destroy my other thinking habits.
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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

I Covered Breathless By Corinne Bailey Rae

  Hi guys, I've recently gotten more into doing covers and I decided to do a cover of Breathless by Corinne Bailey Rae and wanted to share. Comment below if you have any song suggestions and have a great day!

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The Semester Is Ending

     As my freshman year at college ends(or if you're in the U.K., I'm talking about university) I learned:

  • You have to take initiative. No one is going to do anything for you,you have call,email, and bother people if necessary but don't be ashamed. You have to take initiative for the things you want, and because it's things you want, that makes it worth it. 
  • School isn't everything. Life goes on beyond school. Education is not the begin all, nor the end all. Your future is dependent on you, your efforts,your will and God decide your life, not school. 
  • In college you're going to have a lot of alone time(unless you're a social butterfly and developed the most elaborate group of friends that walk with you everywhere, and if so ignore this bullet and share with me your secrets in the comment section lol). Build an incredible relationship with yourself, that's what I did. I'd encourage everyone to develop a great relationship with themselves at any age, but often when you're younger you don't understand what that entails.
  • I'm an independent and no that doesn't make me anti-social it just makes me pro-me, lol.
  • Don't be afraid to talk to people. Everyone is there for the same thing, a degree and they've all been freshmen before, you might run into some rude people, but there's a better chance you'll be talking to someone just like you, or has something in common with you that you'd never know. 
  • Don't underestimate yourself. I have been afraid of college for a very long time, ever since I was little and was immediately told that college was something I had to do, or at least try. College sounds big and scary but it's really not, you've gotten this far now isn't the time to run and hide from it. 
  • Mistakes happen, but they don't define you. 
  • Keep trying. 
  • Pray or for those who don't believe in God, meditate.
  • Don't stress yourself out,it gets nothing done, and I know it's only natural to stress from time to time, but it's worth trying not to.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. I don't care if you live in a farm town, or a city crime has no designated location. Keep your things close to you, carry some level of protection, and try not to be completely alone in an area. Although, I stated in a point above about getting to know yourself and being comfortable being alone, you also should at least be near people, not with but near.
  • Be open to different paths, and the fact that your path is your own original path for you. Don't compare yourself with other people, you're going to see people doing things you may not want to do, or things you want to do but can't and that's okay. One path is not bad, and another path is not necessarily good, they are all supposed to be different, because we all are different.
  • Your purpose should make you happy, and being happy is your purpose.
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Saturday, April 20, 2013

In The Mind of An Internet Troll


         An internet troll is a person with an account on some kind of social network,blogging platform, or any website that invites conversation with a profile picture that isn't their own, false information in their bio or profile and lastly spreads all the hate they have lying in their little troll-like heart. Luckily, I have never encountered many internet trolls first hand, but I've seen them. Internet trolls migrate to popular people, people who seemingly have "better lives", than the average person. I put quotations around better lives because, first these celebrities live off of building images but we will never know that their actual life is and secondly the term better life is up for many definitions depending on the person. Internet trolls don't take the time to acknowledge there's another human being on the other side of the internet they are trashing. Never do these creators of cyber harassment take a moment to reflect on why they feel the need to spread there negativity, they just do.
       I always thought internet trolls, were merely spam but this is worse than spam. Spam is run by itself, it's a technological glitch but an internet troll is a person who literally takes time out their life, to pepper in negativity in another's. The things that go on inside of the internet troll's brain is the same thing that goes on in the mind of a hater, a mass amount of jealousy,insecurity,self hate, and too much time on their hands. Just like if you confront a hater, an internet troll will in turn,run and come up with some wild excuse to why they do what they do, because they can't face the reality of their pain.

Friday, April 19, 2013

I Want You To Stay

   Hi, guys while sitting in a brief moment of boredom I decided to do yet another little cover! Check out the video, like subscribe, do what you like and have a great day!


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Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Exam Anxiety

           Exams are some of the rudest creatures to grace God’s green Earth. Exams don’t care about the fact that I haven’t slept well, haven’t been able to do a blog post, don’t have a decent outfit of the day to share. Exams don’t care that they give you headaches and make you cry. Exams don’t care if they spit on your self esteem. Exams don’t care if they send you into panic, and give you anxiety attacks in the middle of the night. Exams don’t care if you feel like crap, or are emotionally exhausted. Exams are still exams and they will still bother you no matter how much you want to protest. The worse part about exams is some people think they are so needed, and they are incredibly important, but in reality they’re just a bunch of tools. So, try during the exam, but don’t let the exam define you, don’t let it determine what you do with your life, life does not end nor begin with any Earthly material, only God will decide for me. I acknowledge the exams but, I do not let them dictate me anymore, I will not let them make me cry, I will not shake before them. I will try my hardest during the exams, and put in much effort, but I’m not putting my life into an exam, God already has that job covered. I declare that God dictates my future, not a school, not a teacher, not a final exam, or some paper. My challenges on this Earth are temporary greatness awaits me soon enough. It feels really good to declare God’s position in my life, and it takes the stress I've had over exams off of me, not in a sense that I don’t feel I have to study, but now I don’t feel like crying or snapping at the thought of it.

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Sunday, April 14, 2013

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Get A Little Trendy!

        Hi, I'm Dinesha Renee Johnson and I'm a trend lover impostor, allow me to explain. I will retweet certain trends, gush about certain trends to my friends, go oooh and ahh at online stores, but when I actually shop....The moment I'm put in the situation to indulge and shop all those hot trends every idea, premeditated obsession goes out of the window! I will buy what I like , out of what I see, and if it just so happens to be apart of the trend then that's merely scoring 2 points! I need to make a list on my little iPod to remind myself of the trends I'm interested in, or better yet create this polyvore set, screen shot it on the iPod and save it!

trendy much
trendy much by deejaystyles featuring platform sandals

  •             The pencil skirt, is slowly but surely gaining much needed attention in the Spring. Fashionista Next Door, did her last link up on making the pencil skirt a casual staple, playing with printed pencil skirts and bolder colors, other than the navy blues and blacks we're used to. The pencil skirt is a great choice if you want to display some curves like in a bodycon, but not as short. I love a great pencil skirt, it can be dressed up or down and there's this vintage femininity that oozes glamour for me!
  •            The chunky gold chain reminds me of old school hiphop...nuff said! Anything that gives me the fierceness of the Salt and Peppa duo is A-ok with me!
  •             The black wedges, are a must have because I love to feel tall. All Winter and Fall I wore, heeled boots, and ankle boots, I'm not ready to go back to being 5 foot 7 again. 
  •      The infamous crop top a.k.a. the bane of my existence. I've always thought crop tops were cute,but never in a million years would I even tease myself with the idea of wearing the crop top, because of my tummy.I associated crop tops with thinness, and thinness with being beautiful something I didn't let myself feel, when I was much younger. As I've grown so has my definition of beauty, and my willingness to try new things, and to accept my current body type for what it is.  Everyone can wear crop tops, if everyone feels like it, and this Summer I feel like it, so I shall, lol!
     The last bit of this post, is the arm party styled cuffs. I love the cuffs and bangles, I never wear any of mine though grr lol! I'm going to experiment with bracelets a lot more!

  There you have it guys, I'm going to really test my(memory) and willingness to try these new trends! I shall rock in a crop top,flirt in my pencil skirt, win in my wedges, slay in my chain, and shake it up with an arm party!

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Friday, April 12, 2013

Won't You Just Smile?


         During the winter time, on  my way to school, my mother realized there wasn't enough gas in the car. We stop at a gas station, I get out to go pump the gas. It's freezing, it's 8:00 AM, and my body felt achy. I get in line behind a guy, he turns to me and says "hey smile, you're beautiful", I said thank you and gave him a smile, he turned around with a grin.The cashier smiles as he can hear the conversation, when my turn arrives I pay for the gas. Going outside I pump the gas, sit down and continue on my travels to school. Looking back on it, this is one of the most simple,  everyday interactions, that most people won't look into deeply, including myself. I never thought much of the brief talk the gentlemen and I had while waiting for gas, until a post on Tumblr sparked my curiosity.
     Tumblr is a blogging platform, you've got your funny posts, natural hair, rock band,television fandoms, fashion bloggers, everything is on Tumblr. A post sprung up about the social interactions we have on a daily basis like the one I just did, it explained how asking for someone to smile is an unnecessary instance for several reasons:

  • you don't know why this person isn't smiling?
  • you don't know if it's a struggle for them to smile?
  • who are you ask them to smile?
  • they have every right to frown
         I read this post with an open mind, and I really questioned that situation. What if I found out I lost a relative the day before, and couldn't make myself smile even if I wanted to? What if I didn't smile back at him, what reaction would he have given me then? If I continued to frown, would he have said something offensive, is exercising my right to reject his suggestion even considered an offense? You have to see from the person who's doing the asking, point of view as well. This person doesn't know what may strangle your will to smile, they may just be reaching out in the name of friendliness. The people around you may be bursting with joy and figure they could share it with others, and merely tell someone to smile, because they're alive, is this asking to much, is this a harmful action instead of good?
     I ask myself these questions still because I don't know the answers. I just wanted to share what I viewed on the post to ask you for your opinion.What do you think of asking someone to smile, is this act invasive, or perhaps it's not that serious? I want to know what you think because, ya girl is on the fence.

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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Originality Isn't Dead, It Just Got A Little Harder To Find

          We are all born with a predisposed stereotype being placed on us, whether we can acknowledge it or not. The people around you are judging your future, before you can even say goo goo. Relatives and friends eagerly stand by judging you, based on your parents, "she's going to be a little diva, like her mom", "he's going to be a little heartbreaker". Although these prejudgments are all said in good fun, when you grow older you're going to face others who will say things, not in good fun, but in the act of trying to sum you up. It's easier for people to put you in a category and leave you there, no one wants to do the work involved in figuring people out anymore, as if that work is something to dread. Where has the fun, of getting to know people gone? Have we as a society become socially lazy, so much that no only do we stereotype and prejudge out of convenience, but those being prejudged accept the title of out convenience as well.
      I will never entirely know what people see when they look at me, because I can only see from my own eyes. I confuse people who aren't willing to look past my appearance, and annoy those who believe titles and stereotypes are beneficial. I'm a blogger, who started off as your classic fashion blogger, and decided to branch into my own genre. It's hard to find me on the internet, because no one knows to even look for me. I'm a fashion/poetry/writing/reviewing/sci-fi lover/ type of girl, my type is composed of many types, and I can easily see that people would find that to be too much, but this is me. I appreciate original bloggers, I love bloggers who do their own thing! I follow some original, awesome fashion blogs simply because I can see the  realness in them, the blogs I follow are not here to play a role and that's why I find them interesting!
     To my bloggers, whether it's on one topic or many, never let anyone put you in a box, you were not born a square! People may not understand you, people may judge you harshly because that's what people do when they stumble across something new, people will try so hard to fit you into they think you should be, and in doing so they steal what makes you, you! Don't be stolen from, those original little things about you are so incredibly precious,don't be a victim of the narrow minded.
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Don't Let Them Break You

       It started with a knock, then a hard pound, then suddenly there wasn't a sound.Don't let the world's negativity beat you into silence. There will be people who wish to keep you quiet, because new ideas are frightening to some. New ideas can very well mean change, a change that many aren't prepared for. "Be the change you want to see in the world" is an extremely overused quote, but only because it's true. Don't be silenced, share what you have to the world. Your ideas and voice can very well inspire the next person,like someone inspired you as well,  and the cycle continues on. Your presence is so important, never forget that.
      This post is inspired by the need to remind others that life is incredibly precious. I have found myself to always have a level of respect for life in general even though I acknowledge it can suck sometimes. I have been careless with the words I've used in regardless to my life in the past, in brief bouts of frustration I've been brought to tears, desperately wanting to escape it. I have to develop the respect and care I once had, that will make me strong enough to face the challenges that my life will face, not run from it. I don't want to be a runner, I don't want to be silenced. I am worthy, my message is worthy of me staying put and defending it, I can't give up. Never can I give up, neither can you.

What is Love?

        When you wake up and the Sun is out,you get dressed and are particularly quite proud of what appears in the mirror in front of you, it's an amazing feeling. I took a moment to look in the mirror, and tell myself how much I love me, I told myself I love the way I smile, I love how kind I am, I love how opinionated I can be, I love how strong willed I have become. I told myself that even though I have various flaws, I still me, and I'm still worth believing in. Talking to yourself can sound crazy to some, but I've grown to acknowledge everyone talks to themselves in one way or another. I spoke directly to myself, to remind myself, that I am a good person, and I love me and I can only hope that I'm not the only person who knows how great that feels.

Monday, April 8, 2013

Pageviews Don't Mean A Thing Baby


         I blog out of the need for self expression, I blog because I like it, I blog because I like commentary, I blog because I have a lot to say. I am not here for pageviews, spam and internet famous glory(whatever that is). Now that I'm done explaining the purpose for why I'm here,  I'd like to share with you an issue. The issue at hand is "obsessive claim to fame", people are willing to get famous for any and everything, but why, you may ask,let me tell you.
         As a young girl I wanted to be a singer. I always imagined being on stage in front of a large audience,wearing something sparkly and getting massive applause. Celebrities, actors,actresses, musicians, these immensely popular individuals are often put in the spotlight for great things, and some not so great things. From receiving an award, to receiving massive amounts of criticism on your red carpet style it's obvious being famous is a 50/50 kind of thing. Beyond the reception famous people receive, what many people crave is reception period. Whether it's bad reception or good, people like to feel recognized, it's almost like now they have been given permission to exist.

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

We're Throwing Shade..Literally!


       Hey guys! I was scrolling on my tumblr dashboard, because you know I'm kind of addicted to Tumblr again and well I see these John Lennon inspired sunglasses all over the place! I love these sunglasses the vintage appeal, and the different colors are winning me over! I have a pie face, and I think the shape and the size of these sunglasses would flatter that, and give me a 70s Hollywood feel. What do you think of these sunglasses, will you give the trend a try?

Playing In Polyvore Backgrounds

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Express Yourself!

    I've been brainstorming like crazy a new project where exhibits positive forms of self expression. You might be wondering why is self expression so important feel free to check out my video below to find out where my passion lies for this specific topic. Leave a comment below on how you express yourself, and do you think it's important to do so? By the way feel free to like, share or subscribe to my YouTube channel!

Monday, April 1, 2013

My March Favorites!

     Hey guys, I know my posting schedule has been really off lately, but I'm trying to figure out how to implement a few new ideas I've got coming up so bear with me. March went by decently fast, and as someone who's craving Summer I am not mad! My favorites of March were:

     Follow on BloglovinBloglovin, has been my go to catch up with my favorite blogs, it makes searching through posts so much easier. Remember Google Friend Connect is getting the boot in the Summer so feel free to click the icon below to follow my blog if you like


I'm obsessed with Tumblr, it's ridiculous. I find myself getting a lot of inspiration as far as style, and trends and I simply love it! Besides the style and fashion I've been exposed to from Tumblr, I've been indulging in a lot of sociology based blogs. Things on black politics, patriarchal systems, and rape culture has littered my Tumblr dashboard and  has given me more information than university has! If you want to see my blog and know just what exactly I'm talking about click the tumblr link above or click here 

     My 3rd favorite is Being Human, as a matter of fact this show has been my favorite since the very first episode premiered. Being Human is a show that started in the U.K., and they created a U.S.version which I'm currently addicted to.The show begins with a ghost Sally, and the two roommates who move into her home, Aidan a vampire and Josh a werewolf. I'm not going to give much a way on the show because it's something you have to experience for yourself if you have Netflix it's definitely a must see, and try to catch it on Hulu too!